First Date Tips

What Should I Wear?




We know first impressions are important, and we'd like to think they're primarily based on personality, right? Wrong. First impressions are largely about on how we look. So when you're getting ready for that all-important first date, think about what you are going to wear. Dress to impress, but also dress to show your personality. Keep in mind the activities you have planned for evening, and dress accordingly. If you initiated the date, make sure your invitee knows your plans as well so that he or she can dress appropriately.



Footing the First Date Bill

Who pays for a date? It's not as clear as it once was. More and more, dates -- even people who have dated for years -- split the tab at the end of the evening. But on the first date, whoever asks for the date should pay. If you decide to continue seeing each other, alternating payment during subsequent dates is only fair. Make an effort to choose activities that fall within both of your budgets.

First Date Don'ts

First dates are scary, and you might want to surround yourself with friends to ease your nerves. But remember, first dates are for getting to know the other person. So, never take a first date to a party that your friends are throwing. This will put your date at a disadvantage since he or she does not know anyone. Additionally, you may be distracted from your date by your friends, even if that is not your intention. Plan that first meeting around an activity that you and your new date can enjoy together...alone.

Try New Things

No one likes to look like a fool. But we often have the best time when we do! If you are on a date, and your partner suggests you try something new -- a new food, a new sport, a new activity -- consider it. Try it. If it's not illegal or immoral, why not? You may find out that you like it or that you're good at it. And you and your date will be closer because you discovered it together. Don´t be afraid to fail. Just let your date know that this is a new thing for you and you´re nervous, yet willing to try. It could be fun!



Gift For First Meeting

Bring a single flower for your first pre-date meeting
1) A simple carnation or daisy would be a nice casual way of saying "nice to meet you".

2) Stay away from candy, you don't know if the person is on a diet or if they even enjoy sweets.

3) When buying the flower, ask the florist to put the plastic clear water tip on the cut stem. This will insure the flower will maintain freshness till the next day.

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The Rich Dad, Poor Dad Way (Book Review)

The entire book is wrapped around a story of how he learned, observed and distinguished two people making money; rich dad and the poor dad.(I wonder why this book wasn’t titled, “The tale of two dads”! )
His real dad who was highly educated, is called the "Poor Dad". The other, was his best friend Mike's dad, who was an entrepreneur with very little school education. Kiyosaki calls him the "Rich Dad".

Browsing Through Rich Dad, Poor Dad

Lesson 1: The Rich Don’t Work For Money
The book starts off by with some appealing stories about two little boys (Kiyosaki and Mike)who are trying to make money. Rich dad teaches the boys priceless lessons on money, by making them learn through experience. Kiyosaki's Poor dad also gave him advice; contradicting advice to Rich Dad. Kiyosaki talks about how he struggled as a kid to choose between the two very different ways of dealing with money.



Lesson 2: Why Teach Financial Literacy? makes his case by stating, the growing gap between rich and poor is rooted in the antiquated educational system. Later he helps the reader understand the difference between an asset and a liability.

Lesson 3: Mind Your Own Business relates his experience of selling photocopiers on commission at Xerox and how he used his earnings to buy real estate. Basically, the message Kiyosaki gives in this chapter is to keep your day job, but start minding your own business!

Lesson 4: The History of Taxes and the Power of Corporations advices you to do your own research and find out what tax laws will bring you the best advantages.

Lesson 5: The Rich Invent Money highlights that self-confidence coupled with high financial IQ can certainly earn more for you than merely saving a little bit every month. It also urges you to make good use of your time and find the best deals.

Lesson 6: Work to Learn –Don’t Work for Money Brings to light, five obstacles to financial independence; Fear, Cynicism, Laziness, Bad Habits and Arrogance. Unlike other chapters this chapter offers you some actionable suggestions to deal with it.

My favorite excerpt

Most people never study the subject [money]. They go to work, get their paycheck, balance their checkbooks, and that’s it. On top of that, they wonder why they have money problems. Few realize that it’s their lack of financial education that is the problem.

I found Rich Dad, Poor Dad to be very inspiring. Somehow, I felt that I was reading this book, a few years too late, into my life. The book doesn’t overwhelm people with technical jargon. It simply concentrates on the inner being of what it takes to be rich.

I’d recommend this book as an good way to challenge your thinking about work and money, in ways you haven't thought before. However, if you need technical "how to's" and "to do's" in personal finance, this book is not for you.

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Fake It and Flaunt It ? The reality of Blogging World.

This may be old news for some of you but I thought I would write a post for the benefit of those who may not know about it. After all, until today, I had no idea that things of this nature are happening around our blogging world!


However, the noticeable difference between those and this blog was the FeedBurner feed count. On the top right, was a heading subscribe to my rss feeds, and along side it displayed an image with a text indicating 2621 readers. I wanted to find out how this blog managed to get so many subscribers which such mind-numbing content. I didn’t even see a single comment for the 5 recent blog posts.



he detective inside me started to come alive. Even though I don’t have that many RSS subscribers, at least someone leaves a comment on every post!
My curiosity led me to investigate the HTML code of this blog. I also searched the web and found out a way to check the number of subscribers. All you have to do is type the following, on the browser.

http://feeds.feedburner.com/~fc/feedname

My personal opinion is that it depends on the blog and how fake the feedcount is. Obviously, the blog I visited had not thought of the later!

When you visit a blog for the first time, in most cases, what happens is that you read just two or three articles, and then you look at RSS count. If the content and the RSS count impress you, you subscribe.
How many times has this happened to you? When you visited a popular blog the first time, noticed a high feed count of say 10000, and asked yourself - “Why haven’t I subscribed to this blog? 10000 RSS readers mean the blog is definitely worth subscribing!”
So, if you have a pleasing blog design and some decent content, I think you might get attention from your visitors with the fake feedcount.


However once anyone finds out the fake no will ever subscribe to that blog, so the Idea of FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT is not always a good one.

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End of Teenage, High road Dead End

End of teenage for My boyfriend


As far as birthday milestones go, this does not rank all that high on the Richter scale of cataclysmic events.

He is only turning 20; it’s a year later at 21 that my son will truly have a blast.

Still, I cannot help but see his 20th year as the ending of an era — for me.

Because he is my youngest, I am no longer the mother of teenagers.

It takes five years to transform an infant into a walking, talking, potty-trained child ready for kindergarten.





It takes seven years to turn an adolescent into an adult.

But while child is a teen for seven years, for parents the teenage era can last longer.

I entered when my eldest turned 13.

We were cheering for the unbeatable Chicago Bulls and an unbeatable Clinton was running for president.

Two additional children later, I am finally leaving this era behind after 12 years.

Navigating this period is the minefield of parenting.

You proceed with caution because the simplest comment can blow up in your face.

I approached warily.

Teenagers are known to be moody, insecure, non-conforming conformists, argumentative and riddled with angst.

They have an excuse.

The teenage years bring braces, driving, acne, mascara and college applications.

Just about the time the teachers stopped sending home notes to tell me everything going on, that’s about the time my children decided they no longer wanted to tell me anything going on.

If elementary school is nonstop chatter, then the teenage years are silence.

These were the years of closed bedroom doors.

During those years, I grew stupid.

As my children began to learn more and more, I began to know less and less.

My only expertise was as a source of embarrassment.

I could never fail to say the wrong things to the wrong people at the wrong time.



End of Teenage for me:

Consider fashion: Their clothing was too tight, too loose or too low.

We disagreed over the way they looked, and we could disagree just by trading looks.

Being a teenager is almost more a mindset than a chronology.

Not all seven years pose challenges.

My daughter became a teen at age 11 when she was eager to date and move into her own apartment.

By age 16, she had stabilized again.

Biology, I recognize, sets us on a collision course.

As teenagers, my children’s hormones were raging higher — just about the time mine began to fall.

Now I’ve emerged from my 12-year tunnel, and I’m blinking in the sudden sunlight.

“How does it feel to be 20?” I ask my son.

“Kind of weird that I’m not a teenager,” he responds.

It’s weird for me as well.

My youngest once shared with me that goldfish have a memory span of three seconds, and in this case that would be an advantage.

The teenage years, like the flu, are something it’s best not to recall in every detail.

I’m forgetting the past and looking ahead.

My children appreciate that I know a thing or two about life.

I’m optimistic their twenties will usher in a relationship renaissance.

No more disagreements.

On this, I am claiming the last word.

Anything said after this will be considered a new argument.

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50 things which makes a girl happy

1. sweet surprises

2. presents from special people in my life

3. when my boo once told me that he doesn’t want me to be pressured & tired

4. being excited with the plans & never realized that up until now the plans are still not happening

5. unexpected text messages

6. bad days that go by fast and great days that are patient

7. when my boo tells me “I miss you Slyvy...

8. soft sheets

9. feeling part of the team

10. my dog’s adorable expressions



11. when I have new clothes, bags & accessories .. :D

12. watching couples flirting with each other so much you can see the love bubbling out of their ears. i think it’s cute

13. Being the cause to someone else’s happiness

14. Flowers

15. Thinking about things that make me happy

16. People getting along

17. STARS, STARS, STARS

18. Making music

19. my hair

20. being invited

21. nice smell

22. when my boo will see me even for just a couple of minutes

23. Falling asleep next to my boo, feeling his arms wrapped around me, hearing him breathe gently beside me, and waking up with him the next morning :)

24. Eating meals in nice restaurants.

25. An amazing and unexpected view of the moon shining on the ocean.

26. When I hear a song for the first time that gets my adrenaline flowing and makes me smile immediately.

27. genuinely laughing. a lot.

28. Kissing my boo

29. Not having any homework to do

30. Hanging out with my friends, goofing off and being silly

31. Inside jokes

32. fooling around with my boo

33. Making lists and feeling organized

34. Taking that perfect photograph

35. Dressing up nice and feeling beautiful

36. Learning something new

37. Getting in touch with primary school friends you haven’t seen in 10 years

38. Having one day every now and then where you don’t bother with makeup and just do nothing all day

39. Not spending as much as you thought you would, and then using the money you saved on something you don’t need

40. my family, my parents

41. laughing with friends

42. unorganized days

43. an email & a phone call out of the blue

44. Sitting around a campfire with my boo, watching the stars, talking about nothing, wanting it to never end

45. Cooking dinner for friends and family

46. feeling LOVED & RESPECTED

47. Coke in glass bottles

48. Friendly energetic, cheerful people who aren’t faking it

49. Thinking of a good song I haven’t heard in a while and hearing it on the radio the same day

50. A good CRY:


*BOO is my Boy Friend

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Not Tonight Dear, I Had A Modem! | Addcited to Internet

As funny as it may be, this might be actually happening to you. It may be not the exact “situation”, but I find that we spend more time on the internet and neglect the things and people that matter the most to us.

Imagine this; you take your remaining leave to chill at home; Or may be you go on vacation to get away from it all. Yet, you still keep writing your blog, and staying up to date on what’s happening in the blogospehere. I know a blogger, who is blogging while he is on his honeymoon!

Are you an internet addict?

I am not qualified to give a verdict on this. However, here are a few questions that I would like you to think about.
Do you

• find yourself unable to stop connecting to the internet even when you know there are consequences?




• Have you repeatedly made unsuccessful efforts to control, cut back, or stop Internet use?


• Prefer to use online messenger, email and other forms of online communication rather than face-to-face interaction when the latter is more appropriate?
• 
  
• find it impossible to relax without constantly connecting to the internet?


• pay more attention to the latest “internet news” than what is happening in real life?


• feel the internet is a more powerful draw than spending time with your friends and family?

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How to focus and Improvise on work:

focus is what brings prosperity. Distraction keeps us from it........ is a great saying

Focus means your full attention. Here are five daily practices to attain pinpointed focus and stop multitasking.

1. Clear your desk of anything unrelated to your current goal. Things command attention. The less you have before you, the less likely you'll be distracted.

2. Schedule your time into blocks so that you can focus in on one individual task at a time. Include separate blocks for completing high payoff actions, emailing, working with clients, planning, etc. Then set sacred boundaries around those tasks. Complete one, then move on.

3. Do the most important thing first. High payoff actions are the things that will have the biggest positive impact on your success. What will bring you the results you want the most quickly? Put that first, always.


4. Take short breaks away from technology between time blocks or tasks. Take a walk around the block, play music, do something physical or creative. This will clear your mind and help your mental CEO recalibrate to the next task.

5. Plan for tomorrow. Schedule 1 - 3 high pay off activities for the next business day.

Become a master single tasker!

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Multitasking is Out,Focus is the Inthing

What else are you trying to do while reading this article?

Sure, we can multitask. We might even believe we can do it without losing efficiency. But we would be fooling ourselves.

It has been proven in scientific studies that toggling between tasks slows the brain down. In effect, multi-tasking makes us momentarily stupid -- unable to establish priorities, focus or integrate anything new.Have you ever tried to read your email while listening to a teleclass? How about trying to have a serious conversation on your cell phone while driving?.




That time lapse is your "mental CEO" shifting from one task, with a specific goal and set of "rules", to another, with a completely different goal and set of rules. That shift takes time. The more complex the tasks, the longer the shift takes.


Then you know that neither was done with your full presence or capacity. It's as if you weren't there for half of the time. You neither fully understood the emails nor fully integrated what the teleclass offered. Too little of your consciousness was on driving -- scary -- and you couldn't fully connect in the conversation.

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Human Psychology explained !!!

Here is my theory about how a human brain thinks........

People want to be winners; and associated with winning things. WoW players triumph the worldwide subscription numbers. EQII'ers celebrate the 'depth' of the game (winning quality instead of quantity). I can make some valid example for any game really, in about thirty seconds of official forums readings.

So the folks who have identified with AoC or WAR or CoS or any of the 'coming soon!' games potentially on the market are sure that their game will destroy the other games. They want to be on a winning team. You also see this demonstrated in folks who are long term adherents of a game, and are ready to move along. They start looking at the other games, and the promises of what might be, and the faults of their long time game start to stand out more starkly.

I don't blame them for the base psychology, they need to devalue the investment they have already made so they can hype the investment they hope to make in the next big game; but I can disagree with their findings.

These games will come out, and many people will try them. For some, they will be the right answer, and for others they won't. Will this impact the subscription of other games out there? Not in a significant manner at all. You know what will? The team making that existing game. If they continue to deliver the quality that has attracted their current customer base, a new launch means nothing.

So I'm not worried about these coming launches. I'm excited. I have two lumps of friends lining up to play Conan because I know a lot of PvP junkies (/guilty); so I have choices about who I play with; and yes -- I intend to play. I also have an active WoW sub, and funds on my Maple Story account. Oh, and yes, access to every SOE game.

My problem isn't that something new is coming out so something old must die, it's that there aren't enough minutes in the day.

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Are you a movie Buff??

So I haven’t been blogging at all in a while. I can’t understand why I get so tired and don’t have the will to blog about all the things that I have an inner need to discuss. It’s not as if I can’t find anything to talk about. I just can’t bring myself to type out the words. It must be work that has shot holes all in my will and whatnot. Maybe Coz my exams are just been over that I have been getting all lazy.

So, I’ve been going around and putting all the blog buddies I’ve ignored into Google Reader. That way, I can at least keep up with what everyone else is doing and possibly leave some comments. While looking around, I came across sulz’s Lowbrow Blog that included aquiz (which I found from another blog friend). It has mnay good small tiny quiz about the latest movies and gives you ratings for every movie in the form of a picture Certificate which can be proucdly displayed any where you want to on you orkut profile, across forums etc.

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How is Fastest Finger First

Considering I’m not even warmed up all the way, this is a pretty good result. In fact, it had too much of a delay after I pressed the spacebar on some of the words. I had to wait for a split second for the next word to be highlighted. I didn’t want to start typing until it did because it might count it as wrong. I still use only 4 finger to type and most of the time goof up among several letter ans press the windows in between making the screen go of( SCARY)

I did a test lately and could type 22 words in a minute, your results may vary. I did the test 4 times just to get a feel for what it expected. On this final one, it included much bigger words, but also way too many two- and three-letter words (which actually slow me down when in large groups).

Of late such application have been a part of Facebook and Orkut too as they draw much attention and also a lot of sense of competition and makes such sites a cool hangout rather than just cjecking your scraps and wall posts.

Here is an another version of the test which you can use to test your typing speed
play how fast you type?

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Mah Theory of Everyhting

You are now going to be subjected to my rambling thoughts on the cyclical nature of... well basically everything but specifically gaming/society. The three of you who aren't Radar can go ahead and run away now, I'll understand. Radar has to read the whole damn thing though, because it's his fault I'm writing it.

As a rule I don't involve myself in politics and whatnot. However I do have a few very politically savvy friends and relatives and tend to just sort of soak up the information they shove at me on a regular basis. I learn a lot this way. One of the things I've learned is that politics goes in cycles. For a while we're very conservative. Then things swing in the other direction, until those policies no longer work for society and things swing right on back the other way.

Everything tends to end up coming full circle in the end. That isn't to say that everything always ends up staying the same. But the patterns tend to return after a while. How the hell does this apply to gaming?

Believe it or not it does. While we've evolved in the gaming world, we still tend to return to the same patterns. We started out as kids playing cowboys and indians or whatever sort of FPSish game we played when we ran around til we passed out. We got older and started playing arcade games like Pac-Man and Galaga and the fighting games (Mortal Kombat ftw!). Then we started gaming on PCs. Hello Doom and Quake and Unreal etc etc. From there we moved to MMOs. Now, even our MMOs are shifting back towards FPSishness. Only now they're somewhat evolved FPS games and our deathmatches have matured.

There's also a cyclical pattern to the way that people seem to play online games.

My personal example. EverQuest and EverQuest II tend to be my base games. Touchstones that I always play. When I played EQ, I'd stray now and then and play something new when it came out (Dark Age of Camelot!) but I'd return and apologize for having been an MMOslut and promised to once again be monogamous.

I quit EQ when I had a kid cause I spent all my time playing with him and sleeping. Then I found out that EQ2 was coming. WOOHOO! I dove back in (i cut out sleeping, cause really who needs to sleep?) and learned everything I could and eagerly waited for the beta. I even jumped back into EQ for a while to enjoy the nostalgia.

With EQ2 there also came an explosion of other MMOs (I missed SWG pre-cu and I'm terribly bitter about this!). WoW, DDO, LoTRO, TR, etc. I've tried darn near all of them at one point or another. I've missed a few here and there, whether from lack of time or money for yet another game.

The point though is that all the sampling of other games aside, I keep coming back to EQ2. Someday a game will come along that will woo me away (I know, how fickle, right?) but that is going to take a hell of a game.

There's all this speculation right now about how Age of Conan and Warhammer are going to spell the death knell of EQ2. That's a crock of shit. I fail to comprehend how people can honestly believe this. Vanguard was supposed to be the death of EQ2. And while it did have a ton of potential, it was released unfinished. It could have been a great game. But that's neither here nor there. Would it have killed EQ2? Not a chance. Because every game appeals for different reasons. That's why people keep coming back. Just like they keep going back to WoW or any of the other games on the market.

A game doesn't need ZOMGZ 10 MILLION!!!!one11eleventy subscriptions to be a success. Having a player base that can't stay away and speaking to people on a level that keeps them playing through all the growing pains and shinie new games is what makes it a success. Yeah, people will leave EQ2 for a while to try the new games. And they'll be back. Then it'll start over again with the next round of releases.

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